When involved in a loving relationship sex is supposed to be a choice. Never in my life did I think that anyone would consider it an obligation. Well, apparently some people do!
Sex is supposed to be something romantic and emotional and exciting. Sex happens when two people begin to kiss and touch, and the two become aroused and overwhelmed with emotions and bang it happens.
I dont know if anyone feels like I do or if its just me, but when I am pissed off sex seems to be the last thing on my mind. I also hardly ever think of sex at random moments, like when my family just walked out the door after poker night at 2am.
I also dont get turned on when my partner tell me "Babe I am horny, how about you?". To me such statements are such a turn off because if I answer "No." than his feelings might get hurt, so to avoid it I have to answer "Yes." even if I am absolutely not. I dont feel like thats fair because not only am I telling a lie, but I am also doing something I dont want to do. Dont get me wrong when it gets started with all the foreplay is great, but the initial opening of sex is so obnoxious.
I have hinted several times that asking me if I am horny does not cut it for me, but he doesnt seem to get it because he continues to do, and his excuse it "I dont like rejection, so I rather ask before I do anything.". Really? What kind of shit is that? What happened to the romance? What happened to the appropiate foreplaying before we reach intercouse? I just dont understand it!
So, what do I do in such a situation? I enjoy our sex very much, but I want it to start with a kiss or a playful way. Not a question about whether I am horny or not. Is that to much to ask for? I dont know what to do to change this.......
